Defining Your Depth

Who are You? Who are you really? At night, with darkness all around you, with no one to explain yourself to – who are you? I’m curious!

I have asked that question many times. The answers I got ranged from a list of their degrees, certifications, diplomas, or accomplishments; what they do for a living or their family history.   To be fair – I, too, have described myself by what I do for a living.

What is it that pulls us off a ‘real’ answer and into the subjective recall of our value, based on what we have done? Is it insecurity? Shame? Guilt? Is it a desire to be received well and fit in somewhere?

For myself, it has been an insecurity at times. A desire to hide behind my work and not be seen, except as a value in what I provide.

I feel the work we do (the work we have done), the roles we have played (spouse, parent, partner, sibling, etc.)  all add depth to our life – to our growth – to our soul. In fact, much if not all of what we have said, seen, done & thought becomes a layer on our life experiences. These layers can create chaos, confusion, comfort, or clarity.

The experiences we’ve had, the relationships we’ve developed, the situations we’ve been a part of – all help to define us. These opportunities can be helpful to enlighten us or a hinderance for us to see the deeper parts of ourselves.

As I grow/mature (& yes, it’s an on-going process), I work to assume responsibility for my life- for my choices – without blaming others for my life. This has been soul-searching work – humbling, painful, joy-filled, tear-filled, and expansive. Some days I see the Divine Light and embodied Love that are my essence and some days, I’m a hot mess of chaos. But, each time I learn more – more about who I am – more of the Truth – the Authenticity – the Beauty and the Beast (all of it). 

I endeavour to uncover and unravel the layers of life and experience upon me. I try to use my potential to reveal a better version of myself each day. I work to own my ‘stuff’ and know my triggers, so that I can continue to work to feel, heal and release all that inhibits my growth. I believe this is a worthy path for most of us – to do this work, to be humbled as we question everything. And as we heal, we gain greater access to our innate wisdom and Light.

I feel we all need to strive for ‘perfectly imperfect’ as we love ourselves through the process with all our scars. To lean in and become the best we can each day. Through this realness – we will inspire and empower others on their journeys – to be and do their best.  This is a lifelong process of discovery. 

Allow the moments, the memories and the peaks and valleys to inform you, to guide you and to reveal to you – a better version of yourself. 

So, again, I ask, who are you?